1. Our Holy Why Group Discussion Questions: (For husbands’ and wives’ groups) Andrew and Uyanga describe two different models of relationships: one that begins “hot and cools down” and one that grows deeper and stronger over time. Which model resonates more with your understanding of marriage, and why? The speakers emphasize the difference between character and personality. What character qualities do you value most in your spouse, and why do those qualities matter in the long run? Uyanga shares how faith and connection with God provide inner strength and stability. How does your spiritual life influence the way you approach marriage? Andrew describes how remembering that his wife is “God’s daughter” helps him treat her with greater respect, especially during conflict. How does viewing your spouse through a spiritual lens affect how you treat them? The speakers talk about marriage as something connected to ancestors, community, and future generations. How does thinking about your marriage in this broader context influence the way you approach challenges in your relationship? Submit your reflection form Couple Checkpoint Challenge: Set aside 20–30 minutes to talk together about the deeper meaning of your Blessing. Take turns answering the following questions: Why did you personally choose to receive the Blessing? What do you believe God hopes to accomplish through our marriage? In difficult moments, what deeper purpose helps you stay committed? After sharing, create a short statement together (1–2 sentences) that describes your shared purpose as a couple. Example starter:"Our marriage exists to…" Write this statement down and keep it somewhere meaningful. It can serve as a reminder during both joyful and challenging seasons of your relationship.

Becoming One Team - Final Version Group Discussion Questions: The speakers say that unity does not mean being identical, but becoming complementary. What does that distinction mean to you, and how have you experienced it in your marriage? Trust played a central role in their story. When conflict happens, how easy or difficult is it for you to remember your spouse’s good intentions? Andranik and Sandra speak about not giving up on “us” as a couple, even when emotions are strained. What are some practical ways you can protect the bond of your marriage during conflict? The lesson emphasizes the importance of honoring a common vision. What shared values, goals, or mission do you and your spouse want to keep in front of you? The speakers also talk about being one team in joy, not only in struggle. In what ways do you intentionally celebrate, support, or cheer on your spouse in everyday life? Submit your reflection form Couple Checkpoint Challenge: “What Helps Us Feel Like a Team?” Set aside 20–30 minutes together and reflect on your experience of unity as a couple. Take turns sharing about the following: When do you feel most like we are truly on the same team? What tends to make us feel disconnected or opposed to one another? What helps you feel supported by me during difficult moments? What is one thing we can do more intentionally to strengthen our sense of unity? After you both share, choose one practical team habit to focus on this week.Examples: checking in intentionally each evening assuming the best in conflict praying together briefly expressing support for each other’s goals maintaining one simple routine of care End by affirming one quality you appreciate in your spouse that strengthens your team dynamic.

Communication Group Discussion Questions: The speakers emphasize that communication is more than words—it also includes tone, body language, pacing, facial expressions, and emotional meaning. Which parts of communication do you think often affect a marriage the most? What communication barriers stood out to you most from this lesson, such as assumptions, blame, interruptions, distractions, or contempt? Which of these do you think is especially damaging? The lesson explains that some reactions in conflict can be connected to childhood experiences or deeper inner wounds. Why is it helpful to understand what might be underneath a spouse’s reaction? “I” statements are presented as a healthier alternative to blame. What difference do you think it makes when someone speaks from their own feelings and needs instead of accusing the other person? The speakers say that the goal of communication is connection, not proving who is right. Why is that often hard to remember in the middle of conflict? Submit your reflection form Couple Checkpoint Challenge: “How Do We Communicate Best?” Set aside 25–30 minutes to reflect together on your communication as a couple. Take turns answering the following: What helps you feel most heard and understood by me? What tends to make communication harder between us? When conflict happens, what do you most need from me in order to stay open? Are there any patterns we want to change in how we talk with each other? What is one communication habit we want to strengthen in our marriage? After sharing, choose one communication practice to intentionally focus on this week. Examples: using more “I” statements putting phones away during important conversations asking clarifying questions instead of assuming taking a short break when emotions get too high having one intentional weekly check-in End by each sharing one sentence that begins with: “I feel most connected to you when…”

When we face Storms - Final Version Group Discussion Questions: The speakers challenge the idea that conflict is always bad. How have you tended to view storms or conflict in marriage, and how does this lesson challenge or deepen that view? The image of the boat on the lake highlights the importance of keeping positives high and negatives low. What are some “positive deposits” that help strengthen your marriage? Andi and Karen describe how storms often grow through accumulated silence, neglect, or unspoken feelings. What are some small patterns that, if ignored, can grow into larger issues in a marriage? In their conflict, both speakers had to resist the temptation to blame and instead speak honestly about what they were feeling. Why is that shift so important, and what makes it difficult? The lesson also points out that some storms uncover deeper wounds, assumptions, or unresolved experiences from the past. Have you seen ways that personal history can shape how someone reacts in marriage? Submit your reflection here Couple Checkpoint Challenge: “What Helps Us Weather Storms?” Set aside 25–30 minutes for a calm conversation together. Take turns reflecting on these questions: What kinds of “storms” tend to affect us most as a couple? When stress or tension builds, what usually helps you feel supported by me? What tends to make conflict harder for you? What are some positive routines or habits that help keep our relationship strong? When we face difficulty, how can we remind each other that we are on the same team? After sharing, choose 2–3 practical ways you want to strengthen your “water level” this week.Examples: a nightly check-in having one intentional dinner together taking a walk together closing the day together before doing separate activities expressing one honest feeling each day End by each sharing one sentence that begins with: “When we face storms, I want us to remember that…”

Sex Through God's Eyes 5. Sex Through God's Eyes Group Discussion Questions: The speakers describe intimacy as something God wants to be present in, not something separate from spiritual life. What does that perspective stir in you? Shame is a major theme in this lesson. What are some sources of shame, discomfort, or confusion that can affect how people experience sexuality in marriage? Robert shares about performance pressure and comparison, while Carina speaks about learning to feel beauty and healthy pride in intimacy. Which of these themes feels especially relevant or meaningful to you? The lesson challenges the idea that intimacy should always feel effortless, perfect, or immediately mature. Why is it important to allow sexual intimacy to grow and deepen over time? What does it mean to you to approach intimacy with gratitude, awareness, and intentionality rather than obligation, pressure, or routine? Submit your reflection here Couple Checkpoint Challenge: “How Do We Want to View Intimacy Together?” Set aside 25–30 minutes for a gentle, honest, and respectful conversation. Take turns reflecting on the following: What messages about sex and intimacy have shaped me in the past? What has helped me experience intimacy in marriage as something good, safe, or beautiful? What can make intimacy feel pressured, blocked, or difficult for me? What helps me feel most connected, seen, and loved by you? How do we want to grow in our view of intimacy as a couple? As you share, focus on openness and understanding rather than fixing everything in one conversation. At the end, complete this sentence together: “We want our intimate life to be a place of…” Examples: trust, joy, peace, freedom, connection, gratitude, beauty, mutual care You may want to write down 2–3 words that describe the kind of intimate culture you want to build in your marriage.

Sexual Intimacy - Final Version Group Discussion Questions: The speakers say that sexual intimacy starts long before sex itself—through friendship, openness, and emotional closeness. What stands out to you about that perspective? Amelia and Gabriel emphasize that every couple is unique. Why is it important not to compare one’s intimate life to others or expect one fixed model of what it should look like? The lesson highlights the importance of communication with love, especially around sensitive topics. What makes communication in this area difficult, and what helps make it safer? Different seasons of life can affect intimacy in different ways. How have you seen stress, children, busyness, living situation, or changing routines impact a couple’s connection? The speakers mention that secrecy in other areas of life can create distance even in sexual intimacy. Why do you think honesty and openness across the relationship matter so much for intimacy? Submit your reflection here Couple Checkpoint Challenge: “What Helps Us Stay Connected in This Season?” Set aside 25–30 minutes together and talk honestly about your current season as a couple. Take turns reflecting on these questions: What helps you feel most emotionally close to me right now? What challenges or pressures in this season affect our connection? What kind of quality time helps you feel reconnected to me? Is there anything we need to talk about more openly or gently? What is one way we can care for our intimacy more intentionally in this season? After sharing, choose one relational practice and one practical practice for this week. Examples of a relational practice: a loving check-in conversation more verbal appreciation talking more openly about needs and feelings praying together Examples of a practical practice: planning a date night blocking out couple time in the calendar taking a walk together creating a better routine for reconnecting at the end of the day End by each sharing: “One thing I appreciate about how we are growing together is…” Bonus Material If you want to learn more about sexuality, get practical and learn more about love making check out this HN course by the Yasutakes.

Healing Shadows - Final Version Group Discussion Questions: The speakers describe shadows as anything hidden, distorted, or disconnected that affects one’s relationship with self, spouse, or God. What stands out to you about that broader definition of a “shadow”? One important part of this story is that the issue was initially subtle, not dramatic. Why can it be difficult to notice or name problems when they are quiet, confusing, or hard to explain? Araceli brought up her experience without attacking David’s character, and David stayed open instead of becoming defensive. Why are grace and openness so important when difficult truths come to light? The lesson shows that both spouses had something to heal, even though the issue first appeared to center more on one person. Why is it helpful to see healing in marriage as something both people often participate in? The speakers connect healing to honesty, courage, accountability, grace, and integrity. Which of these virtues feels most essential or most challenging when confronting difficult patterns in a relationship? Submit your reflection here Couple Checkpoint Challenge: “What Might Need More Light?” Set aside 25–30 minutes for a gentle and honest conversation together. Begin with this shared attitude: We are not here to accuse each other. We are here to understand more deeply and grow together. Then take turns reflecting on the following: Is there any area in our relationship where something feels “off,” but we have not really named it yet? Are there any hidden assumptions, hurts, fears, or expectations that may be affecting how we connect? What helps me feel safe enough to bring vulnerable things into the light? How can we respond to each other in a way that creates more grace and less shame? What would it look like for us to face shadows as a team rather than in isolation? You do not need to solve everything in one conversation. The goal is to create honesty and safety. At the end, each person can complete this sentence: “One way I want to practice more light in our marriage is…”