Welcome to Radiant: Intimacy for New Blessed Couples!
Your Next Steps:
Create your North Star Goal
Purpose & Objectives
  • Develop a God-centered and internal sexual relationship within your couple through educational content, studying True Parents' words, and connecting with brothers and sisters.
  • Discover God's vision for sex for your Blessing and take your intimate relationship to heavenly standards.
  • Cultivate open communication around sexuality to achieve deeper levels of spiritual and internal connection.

Our Northstar goal for participants:

Get clear on what the ideal couple is and how to become that through their Northstar and developing the 5 Virtues within the couple.

Orientation Video
Watch this video, to get a better idea of how the program works and what you can expect from it.
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  • Commitments
Commitments

We want you to know that this program will be as successful as you allow it to be. That's why your commitment is very important.
  • Inform my group if I cannot join a weekly group call
  • Attend the weekly group calls for 1.30 h (separated by gender)
  • Have a Couple's Checkpoint: getting together with my spouse once a week to have a check-in where we can go over the lessons we gained from each session

  1. Respect:
  1. Lift people up, not put them down
  1. Confidentiality:
  1. This allows everyone participating to feel comfortable and safe to share honestly. You may share about the contents of the calls with a loved one, but may not reveal the identity of anyone in the group.
  1. Honesty:
  1. Always tell as much of the truth as possible. (It’ll be helpful for you and for the group)
  1. We are going to practice telling the truth in a way we can all hear it. It’s not about being right or wrong, it’s about sharing to help, learn and grow together.
  1. Participation
  1. The best way to learn and grow and for the program to have a meaningful impact is to participate
5 Virtues: To Continually Grow Into the Best Partner for My Couple
  • Honesty: I commit to telling the truth about myself. This is the fuel for my growth. The deeper I can understand and express the truth about myself — my thoughts, feelings, and the events of my life — the more freedom I will experience.
    Be transparent if you can, don't be afraid to express yourself.
  • Grace: I commit to giving and receiving grace. Grace is not something to be earned. It is ever present, available to me. However, there is a certain state in which I can experience it and out of which I cannot. Truth-telling makes me vulnerable, putting me in the position to be accepted or rejected. The feeling of acceptance is the experience of grace. It is an experience of unconditional love.
    I will receive grace from others, I will give grace to others, and I will give grace to myself.
  • Responsibility : I commit to taking full responsibility for my life. Responsibility is a pillar of happiness. When I am responsible for the circumstances of my life, including my physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual well-being, then I experience freedom and joy. Responsibility is not blame. It’s having a say in the results of my life.
    Responsibility is not guilt. It’s learning from my experiences and continuing to grow.
  • Integrity and Accountability: I commit to having integrity and being accountable. I’m here because I want to learn and grow. That requires integrity and accountability. Integrity is honoring my word. Keeping it as best I can and acknowledging when I don’t. Accountability is giving people permission to support my integrity.
    Through integrity and accountability I allow myself opportunities for truth-telling and continual growth.
  • Courage: I commit to being brave. Living up to these commitments is no small feat. In fact, it’s uncomfortable and downright scary. Being brave is not the absence of fear, but understanding what is more important than fear. I’ll face hard truths about myself. I’m willing to be humble. I’m willing to try my best. I’ll make my way forward step-by-step and when needed, with a leap of faith.
    I’ll make mistakes, but when I do I’ll pick myself up and try again.
Small Groups

We want to stress how important they are to the success of this program. Don't underestimate them.
It is within the small groups where you will apply the courage to be honest, vulnerable. You'll be able to both give and receive grace, accountability and strengthen your integrity in front of your brothers and sisters.
If you don't do it during the program, doing it with your partner is not going to be easier.
Take the opportunity to relate to other brothers and sisters and practice becoming the person you you know you can be for your partner.
Call format
  • 30 min: Personal check-in
  • You can check in on:
  • your NSG,
  • your Couple Checkpoint,
  • your realizations,
  • your internal state etc.
  • Go deep:
  • how are you really doing?
  • what is not working with yourself, with your couple?
  • what have you been reflecting on?
  • 40 min Watch videos and Discussion
  • 10 min Weekly Reflection

Weekly Reflection Form

Through this form you can share with us what you've learned and what actions you want to take during the next week. Additionally, you have the option to schedule a one-on-one call with someone from the staff to get additional mentorship about your NSG, or any other matter you want to talk about. Submit your reflection here! Library of Q&A QUESTIONS Ask your questions here! RESPONSES Library

Couple's Checkpoint: Connection Time

Below each video you'll find the suggested questions for your couple to discuss and share together connected to each lesson.
  • Following every group meeting, we'll ask you to set intentional time apart with your partner to discuss what you've learned from each weekly session.
  • The goal is to digest the content together and exchange insights and discuss how to apply what you've learned.
  • Don't forget to apply the 5 values during these checkpoints!
Other suggested questions
  • What can we/I do better?
  • How am I contributing to… [insert whatever situation may be occurring]? How can I improve on it?
  • Express 3 things you appreciate about your partner or 3 things they did during this week.
👇We also recommend reading together: Core of the Universe:

Excerpts of Core of the Universe

You can read these excerpts or the whole book with you couple during the program to spark deeper conversations about your vision for your couple, the ideal, sexuality within your couple etc. Core of The Universe Readings for the Heavenly Intimacy Program (1).pdf

CONTENT
  • The content we are sharing will give you the opportunity to create safe spaces where you can talk about your relationship, God's ideals, etc. with other people and will make it easier for you to have the practice of sharing who you are to others and therefore to your partner.
  • You will also have a better understanding of the ideal in order to make it your own.
  • We want you to be able to be clear about your vision so that the path towards it becomes clearer.
Video Curriculum
Here's a brief summary of the videos in case you need a reminder after each week ;)

Week 1

The Purpose of Marriage Group Discussion Questions: What was the purpose for you in receiving the Blessing? Have you ever gone through a very difficult time in your relationship? How did it feel? What did you learn from the hardest moments in your relationship? Have you ever felt Heavenly Parent's presence through your partner? Do you accept your partner for who they are? What do you take away from this conversation? Couple Checkpoint Challenge: When we chose to receive the Blessing, what did it mean to each of us personally? How has our understanding of its purpose deepened since then? Thinking back to one of the most difficult times in our relationship, how did it feel for each of us? What emotions did we experience, and how did it impact our connection? During our hardest moments, what did we learn about each other and about ourselves? How did those experiences shape the way we love and support each other today? Can you remember a time when you truly felt Heavenly Parent’s presence through me? What did I do or say that made you feel that way? Do you feel fully accepted by me for who you are? Are there any ways I can love and accept you more deeply?

Week 2

1 + 1 = 3 Group Discussion Questions: Have you experienced the "honeymoon phase" with your partner? How was the change from being single to being a couple and living together? What expectations did you have, or still have, in your relationship? How do you get support when facing challenges in your relationship? When do you feel closest and most connected with your partner? What do you take away from this conversation? Couple Checkpoint Challenge: Looking back, how would you describe your “honeymoon phase” as a couple? What were some of your favorite moments? How did the transition from being single to becoming a couple and living together shape your relationship? What was challenging, and what was beautiful about it? What expectations did each of us bring into our relationship, and how have they evolved over time? Are there any expectations we still hold that we haven’t discussed? When we face challenges, how do we each seek support? How can we better support each other in difficult times? When do we feel the most connected as a couple? What helps us deepen that connection?

Week 3

How to achieve your vision Group Discussion Questions: What standards do you have in your relationship? What standards would you like to add to your relationship? Do you take a "time out" during conflicts? What do you think about it? What shared vision do you and your partner have for your future? Have you ever had the same fight but reached a different outcome? What can you take away from this conversation? Couple Checkpoint Challenge: What standards do we currently have in our relationship, and how do they shape our connection? What new standards would we like to introduce to strengthen our relationship? How do we handle conflicts? Do we take "time outs" when needed? How do we feel about that approach? What shared vision do we have for our future, and how can we align our efforts to achieve it? Have we ever had the same fight but reached a different outcome? What made the difference?

Week 4

God And Sexuality Group Discussion Questions: Have you ever felt Heavenly Parent during sexual intimacy? How do you include Heavenly Parent in your sexual intimacy? Have you ever experienced Heavenly Parent through your partner? How do you invest in foreplay in your relationship? How do you explore and discover with your partner what you both like and don’t like? What can you take away from this conversation? Couple Checkpoint Challenge: When have you felt the most connected to me? How do you experience love best from me? Have you ever felt God in our sexual relationship? If yes, please share. If not, what are ways that we can connect more deeply so that you may experience that?

Week 5

Modern Sex vs Heavenly Sex (UPDATED) Group Discussion Questions: How have your upbringing, media, or High Noon teachings shaped your expectations about sex? What’s one area where you’d like to grow to feel more confident in sexual intimacy? When have you found yourself focusing on “getting” rather than “giving” during intimacy, and how did that impact your connection? Do you feel your spouse understands your needs for connection and arousal? What’s one way you can better communicate those needs? What’s one thing you can do to bring more connection and joy into your sexual intimacy this week? What can you take away from this conversation? Couple Checkpoint Challenge: Questions for Couples Who Have Already Started Their Sex Life How do you feel our experience with sex compares to what you expected before we started? What can we do together to shift our focus from performance or expectations to creating more connection and fun during intimacy? How do you feel about the way we communicate our needs and desires during intimacy? Is there anything we can improve? How do you think we can prioritize giving and connection over focusing on what we want individually? Questions for Couples Who Have Not Started Their Sex Life Yet What are your expectations for sex in our marriage? How do you think they align with reality? How do you think we can prepare to prioritize connection over performance when we begin our sexual relationship? What does healthy communication about intimacy look like to you, and how can we create that openness from the start? How do you think we can focus on expressing love and giving to each other, rather than focusing on what we expect or want to receive?

Week 6

How To resolve conflicts Group Discussion Questions: How do you feel after watching the video? What has been the biggest conflict you have had to overcome with your partner so far, and how did this challenge impact your relationship? How have you resolved conflicts up until now? Have you ever faced a conflict that you couldn’t find a solution to? If so, how did you deal with it? What did you learn from your parents about resolving conflicts? What can you take away from this conversation? Couple Checkpoint Challenge: What strategies have worked best for us as a couple when resolving conflicts? What is your biggest challenge when trying to solve a conflict? How do you feel after experiencing a conflict? What would you like to do differently during a conflict?

Week 7

Active Communication Group Discussion Questions: How do you communicate with your partner when you need to have a difficult conversation or express something that’s on your mind? How would you rate yourself as a listener? How would you rate your partner as a listener? How did this exercise make you feel? What did you learn from this exercise? What is one change you can make in your communication to improve understanding and connection with your partner? What can you take away from this conversation? Couple Checkpoint Challenge: How do we usually communicate when we need to have a difficult conversation or express something on our minds? What works well, and what could be improved? How would you describe me as a listener, and how do you feel I can improve? How do you think I perceive you as a listener? How did this exercise make us feel about our communication and listening skills? What did we learn from this exercise about each other and our communication patterns? What is one change we can each make to improve our communication, understanding, and connection as a couple?

Week 8

A Balanced Blessed Life Group Discussion Questions: Which area—mind mental health), heart (emotions), spirit (life of faith), or body (fitness & food)—do you feel most balanced in, and which one needs more attention? How do you see any imbalances in yourself affect your relationship with your partner? How do you and your spouse balance time together and time separately (like hobbies)? What role does serving your spouse play in creating a balanced and happy marriage? What can you take from this conversation? Couple Checkpoint Challenge: Do we feel like we are balancing our roles and responsibilities well in our marriage? If not, what needs to change? How can we create a better balance between spending time together and taking care of personal needs? Are we supporting each other emotionally, spiritually, and physically in a balanced way? How can we improve? How can we work together to serve others without losing balance in our own relationship? Are there any daily or weekly habits we can start to help us create more balance in our relationship?

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